My Brand New Box

On 1st May I became a 'Female, aged 35-44'. That's my new demographic box, for targeting purposes, which makes me a likely target for romantic comedies and family foods (no kids, never cook, hate sappy movies, give me Entourage or Battlestar Galactica anyday). I'm also a Taurus and an Ox. There I am, in a nutshell. You practically know me already. Or, at least, you've made your acquaintance with my group stereotype.

Some clubs you choose to belong to, while others you're assigned by default. My beef is mainly with the latter, but even members' clubs have their critics.

Groucho Marx had a thing or two to say about clubs. A famous quote, immortalised in Woody Allen's Annie Hall, is: "I don't want to belong to any club that will accept me as a member."

Clubs can be criticised for their exclusivity, which creates barriers between 'people like us' and 'people like them'. Sometimes, club members live up to the stereotypes of their chosen group, while outsiders make lazy assumptions about the members of that group. Clubs impose rules on behaviour and conduct and do not expect their terms to be questioned.

Group identification can even lead to self-delusion, for example, when people read too much into horoscopes. According to the 'barnum effect' in psychology, people tend to believe statements are specific and personal to them (such as those relating to their star sign), when in fact they are general enough to apply to anyone.

Yet, just about everyone is trying to get into some club or other, be it gaining peer acceptance at school, getting into the golf club, or blagging your way into a night club. So what's the big attraction?

Clubs provide protection, security, opportunities for advancement and a place to get food and drink when no one else will let you in. It's easy to strike up a conversation with people, who are like minded in some way. It's comforting to know you belong. The world seems more orderly and less scary. Your club is a place where, like the Cheers bar, 'everybody knows your name'.

People inevitably group together, because the desire for connection is so strong. Whether or not individuals thrive in a group depends on many factors. Personally, I'm uncomfortable with clubs that are exclusive and inflexible and I hate being assigned a group. (Ironically, my stubborn refusal to be put in a particular box probably goes some way to confirming my group identity as an 'Ox'!)

Rigid taxonomies are no longer the order of the day, as Clay Shirky points out in Ontology is Overrated. The Internet allows us to assign tags, which label and define content in a multitude of ways, without the need to impose a single, arbitrary classification.

In the same way, people can belong to multiple groups without being defined by those groups. They can connect - and disconnect - at will, engaging with particular interests or topics as it suits them.